6w3d

It has now been a week since the bleeding started.  I am happy to report that the brown spotting all day yesterday didn't turn into another bleed and I have been blood free now for 13 hours.  Hoping it continues, but not holding my breath because it did this before and then started again at the 22 hour mark.

Me and dh had another big fight last night to go with all the fighting all day.  I really thought it would make me start bleeding again because my bp was probably threw the roof.  He wouldn't stop complaining to me about how tired he is and how much his life sucks for hours and I just couldn't take it anymore and to make it worse I couldn't get away because it was after my PIO shot and I had to stay sitting on the heating pad. 

I called his mother which didn't go so good.  He complained to his mother about having to sleep on the mattress on the floor.  I try and yell saying he choses to sleep there and he can sleep with me if he wants but he would get a heck of a lot less than 5-6 hours of sleep since I am up every few hours to go to the bathroom.  But you know his mother doesn't see things this way and just thinks her poor little boy is not getting a say in anything.  She then tells him how I asked to use the wheel chair and she doesn't understand why and that the chair is too small for me anyhow.  Guess I shouldn't be surprised she renigns on the chair since she can't be relied upon for anything.

The only good news out of the call is she says BIL and his family have to move back to their house August 10.  Guess the bank won't do a short sale for them - I'm not surprised since they have no reason that they can't pay their mortage so now they have to move back or face foreclosure ruining their credit.  Me and dh are not surprised and it shows you how karma is a bitch.

For those who don't know the story it all started last April.  I was on UE and it was running out in June.  With the UE money we were just making it at our apartment.  DH only brought in enough money to pay 1/3 of the bills.  So when I knew UE was ending I had to figure out some way of how we could survive.  I had enough money in savings to get us through to the end of summer, but that was it.  After that we would be screwed.  Now dh's parents have a semi apartment in their basement.  It has its own entrance, bathroom, and kitchen, etc.  MIL always commented for all the years I have known her that we would never need to worry about being on the streets because we could just leave in their basement.  So last April I call MIL up and ask her about us moving there.  She was hestate at first saying there isn't heat down there, but then agreed to it.  I told her we should hopefully be gone by the winter so the heating issue shouldn't be a problem and if it is we can buy a portable heater. 

So everything was going great and then June comes, my UE is running out in a week and MIL phones saying BIL, his wife and their two kids are going to move in and that we need to find a place of our own.  That she wants us to be "self sufficient" and that she will pay for 1st and last month rent (cause I told her we had no money to move).  Well I lost it.  MIL explaination of why they needed the place was that SIL was going to quit her job and become a SAHM and so they can no longer afford their house.  Now for the record BIL makes 4 times as much as dh.  His income alone could pay the mortage and all their other bills no problem.  This is what really pissed me off.  It was one thing for her to go back on her promise to me, but when we were really hurting and seriously were going to be homeless in a few months and she decides when the time came that her other son's family should move in instead.  One year later (last month) I finally got her to admit to me that yes BIL and his family could afford to stay in their house, but get this - they would have no "FUN" money.  That's right, we were 2 months away from being homeless, but she decides to give the place to her other son so he could walk away from his mortage so then they would have FUN money.  I haven't seen FUN money since 2007!

So anyways for the next few months MIL says about how great BIL is because he can take out a $60 thousand loan that they are using to fix up the basement and building an addition.  So not only did MIL go back on her promise to us, she also sold us out.  She made it sound like BIL was such a big shot when really that money was a loan - it wasn't his money, he didn't own it, however for the whole summer last year she would say to me "BIL is giving me $60 thousand what would you guys have given me, nothing" .  To make this story even more interested when my mom and aunt came down at the end of September MIL openned up even more about this loan money.  Seems like the money was never BIL from the get go.  The $60 thousand came from an equity loan on MIL's house.  BIL was only a cosigner.  That's right, MIL took out a $60 thousand loan on her house to totally redo her basement for BIL and his family could move in.

The only thing that made this news easier to bare was by the end of August we were in our own place and I was so happy that we never moved in with MIL.  After MIL pulled her stunt in June I immediately found a place on craig's list and my parents had to give me a $5000 loan so we could pay rent in both places for the months of July and August and move.  MIL's offer on 1st and last month's rent became only an offer for security - she swore she never said she would pay first and last, then when we found the place and I borrowed the money from the business account (basically bleed the account dry) inorder to pay first and security to get the place, MIL changes her story again and says since I had already paid the security I don't need any money.  So that is the story with that.  MIL gave us $0 to help with moving and my parents who are retired had to foot us $5000 just so we could make it through the summer and pay all the moving costs.  The good news is our new place is twice as big as our old place and $300 a month cheaper.  We still don't have enough to make it each month on dh's income alone, but I try to stretch any money we have by using the tax money or selling things.  The first time MIL came to our new place she was impressed at how big it was.  However she has now become a bitch about it saying how bad the neighborhood is, how horrible the backyard is that she can't take dd out in, and how there are drug dealers, etc all around.  I laugh at this since where was she when we needed her last year.  For the price we can afford our place is good.  Yes it is in a lower class neighborhood, but we can't afford an upscale home like hers and since she was no help in finding us a place she really doesn't have a reason to complain.  Whenever she brings this up I always tell her "well then you find us a place".  Of course this gets her all upset and she says "I can find you a better place than THAT"  and then I say calming "Then please do".  This arguement then goes on like this for the next 5 minutes until she hangs up on me.  See why I can't stand this woman.

So anyways, on the phone last night MIL is all upset that BIL has to move back and she wants us to move in there.  At least me and dh agree on one thing.  We are not moving again.  It was a pain in the ass to move in the first place and we have too much stuff - which MIL responds is just throw all that stuff away. 

Anyways, this just shows you what goes around comes around.  We all told MIL how stupid it was for her to do this and what would BIL do if his house doesn't sell.  However they never listened.  No one else who I talked to - everyone in my family and friends - can not understand why she would even do this and why BIL would even chose to leave his house, risk ruining their credit, to live in a basement.
So now they are all screwed.  MIL will lose the $500 a month she was getting in rent from them, and BIL is going to have to pay back on the money on his mortage, including late fees since January, not to mention paying on the $60 thousand loan plus interest.