Not many safe havens

I have been part of a board with other women who were due during the same time I was with my last pregnancy.  This board has been an active part of my life for the last 2.5 years.  Over that time many people left so now there are probably 30 close knit people that have stayed active this whole time.

Being one of the only few infertile person on this board it is hard.  In the past year everyone who has wanted to get pregnant again got pregnant again on month #1.  Many also got pregnant by accident.  One who used to be IF got pregnant right away after sex one time before even getting ppAF.  Another got pregnant from the pull out method, and now there have even been 2 iui pregnancies.  Not to mention the multiple of posts from people who have had tubals or are on bcp and worried they are pregnant because AF is late.  Some of these women ended up losing their pregnancies, but they are all back and pregnant now again, and a few have even already given birth, and in the next few months probably 15 more will give birth (there are probably 20 out of the 30 total who are pregnant and besides us the other 9 are done ttc).

It is hard being in a world that things don't happen for you like they are suppose to.  I don't blame these women and am happy that they never have to experience the pains of IF.  However, it is hard, especially hearing about all these surprise pregnancies when I know that will never happen to us.  The only way we will get pregnant is by putting down thousands of dollars, taking shots, going for bloodwork and u/s every other day, going under anesthesia, and having embryos physically transferred into my uterus and then praying, as well as being on bedrest for the week.  Then if it does work there is the countless betas and u/s before we even reach 10 weeks.
I can't farthum how someone can go in for a pap and come out finding out they are 11 weeks along.  Just like I can't farthum how all these women get pregnant by using birth control when we have never gotten pregnant despite having unprotected sex when I am ovulating.

I know that we are not the norm, it is just hard to think that other people don't have to deal with any of this.  Other people have to take measures to prevent pregnancy or else it will happen.  It really upsets me that everyone gets to have a choice in the matter, but with being infertile we don't.